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Failure to launch : why your twentysomething hasn't grown up... and what to do about it / Mark McConville, Ph.D.
"From an expert in adolescent psychology comes a groundbreaking, timely, and necessary guide for parents of the 2.2 million young adults in America who are struggling to find their way in the world"-- Provided by publisher.
Record details
- ISBN: 9780525542186
- Physical Description: xi, 306 pages ; 24 cm
- Publisher: New York : G.P. Putnam's Sons, [2020]
- Copyright: ©2020
Content descriptions
| Bibliography, etc. Note: | Includes bibliographical references and index. |
Search for related items by subject
| Subject: | Parent and adult child. Adult children living with parents. Young adults. Adulthood. |
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- 16 of 16 copies available at BC Interlibrary Connect. (Show)
- 1 of 1 copy available at Valemount Public Library.
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- 0 current holds with 16 total copies.
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| Location | Call Number / Copy Notes | Barcode | Shelving Location | Holdable? | Status | Due Date |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Valemount Public Library | anf 155.659 mcc (Text) | 35194014300206 | Adult non-fiction | Volume hold | Available | - |
- Booklist Reviews : Booklist Reviews 2019 November #2
All parents want their children to grow up to be happy, well-adjusted adults with successful careers and blissful marriages. But often the transition from troubled teen to amiable adult doesn't go smoothly. Parents have become increasingly involved in their children's lives, according to clinical psychologist McConville, and twentysomethings are often unsure how to go off on their own. Using challenges and successes gleaned from his practice, the author describes the skills young people need to move on to adulthood, including becoming responsible, relational, and relevant. Even more important, McConville details what parents can and can't do to help their children. He offers ways to get past parental guilt, set boundaries, motivate, and communicate. He reminds readers that twentysomethings in transition need support, not coddling, and that staying connected is often difficult but worth the effort. He also reminds readers that it's smart to ask for professional help for both parents and children when situations become overwhelming. McConville's style is welcoming, and his advice is reassuring. Parents facing these challenges (and there are plenty) will snap this up. Copyright 2019 Booklist Reviews. - Kirkus Reviews : Kirkus Reviews 2019 November #2
A clinical psychologist analyzes the widespread problem of people "struggling with adolescent to adult transitions." The trajectory of most American teens is to finish high school, attend college or get a steady job, and launch into the world, standing on their own. However, as McConville (Adolescence: Psychotherapy and the Emergent Self, 1995, etc.)âwho has a private practice and is a senior faculty member at the Gestalt Institute of Clevelandâshows in this apt analysis, many young adults don't follow this path and wind up back home with their parents, unable to hold a job, maintain a steady relationship, or thrive in a higher education program. The author points out that teens are more anxious and "worry more and risk less" now than in any previous generation, and he rightly suggests that parents must avoid the temptation to micromanage every decision in their child's life. McConville uses numerous case studies to back up his primary argument that there are three key reasons why this "failure to launch" trend is happening: Young adults don't know how to assume responsibility f or themselves and their actions; they lack supportive relationships; and they can't locate a sense of hope and purpose regarding their future. Once McConville breaks down these three elements, he provides readers with practical scenarios that demonstrate how others have worked through these situations to become more well-rounded and -adjusted young adults. The author believes parents need to look at their own parenting behaviors and begin treating their children as the adults they want to be by allowing them to have their own ideas, values, and priorities that are separate from the parents. McConville concludes with a section addressed to the "struggling transitioner," which focuses on one main message: "If you want your parents to stay out of your business, you have to learn to manage your business in a way that doesn't require them to get involved." A straightforward, helpful guide for families struggling with a child's ability to make their own way. Copyright Kirkus 2019 Kirkus/BPI Communications. All rights reserved. - Library Journal Reviews : LJ Reviews 2019 November
Psychologist McConville (Gestalt Inst. of Cleveland) has worked with hundreds of young adults who have struggled with the transition from childhood to adulthood. Studies show that one-quarter of Americans, ages 25 to 34, neither work nor attend school. So what's causing this phenomenon? Helicopter parenting is one source, writes McConville, which results in parents staying engaged in twentysomethings lives to a degree not present in previous generations. Other factors include decreases in earnings, increases in housing costs, shifting norms around sex and marriage, lack of ownership, and fear of rejection. McConville's plan to help young people acquire "adulting" skillsâbecoming responsible, relational, and relevantâalso addresses the vital role that parents play in the issue and ways for establishing healthy boundaries and keeping communication lines open.
Copyright 2019 Library Journal.VERDICT McConville is well qualified to guide parents through the challenges that many face but are less frequently examined. A valuable go-to resource for parents and teens alike.
